What makes us all unique can either unite or divide us depending on the ability to appreciate one another for these distinct qualities and characteristics. Of course not everyone shares the same views, standards or even morals, and because of this, we face daily scenarios that challenge our personal perspective and in most cases require the act of agreeing to disagree for the sake of remaining peaceful.

The workplace is probably the most sensitive environment to endure such conversations that lead to discussions with two sides that likely don’t share similar bits. So many factors come into play such as hierarchal differences and in lots of cases the concern of retaliation. I believe we all can attest that no place of work is exempt from experiencing its share of scenarios where passion takes over and employees find themselves in disagreement, pressing their personal beliefs in attempt to come to some sort of agreement. We expect most of these to play out professionally, however, this is not always the case since as humans we’re unpredictable and only have control over our own personal projections.

Depending on the degree of the conversation or situation, it can take a great deal of strength to maintain a level of poise so that things don’t become too confrontational. Of course, each situation will warrant its own personal evaluation for responding, however knowing that power lies in the way we respond is essential. How much energy, attention and also passion invested can ultimately determine the end result. While staying calm is the goal, its not always the reality. Learning how to effectively deal with tough situations at work and even outside of work will help in maintaining proper etiquette when the scenarios present themselves.

There will be times when taking action is necessary, however there will also be situations when power is proven through the response of not responding at all. Most times its much easier and peaceful to retreat rather than to advance in something that may not mean much later on. Therefore, in an effort to protect my own peace, I “Pick My Battles” wisely especially if my chosen approach will make a negative impact in the end. I find it very fulfilling to excuse myself from any conversation I’m not comfortable with or that I don’t feel will leave an impression behind I can appreciate.

One of the biggest misconceptions is that avoiding situations is actually a sign of weakness, but this is not the case. Choosing to remove yourself before a situation escalates is in my opinion a show of grace, one the other individual involved may not have the strength themselves to do. In doing this you take control over the situation and give yourself the opportunity to come out unbothered and feeling good that you didn’t say anything or do anything you may regret later on.

I’ve encountered countless situations where coworkers created chaos where they obviously weren’t welcomed are necessary. I understood in most cases this was based on their own personal demons they’d been fighting and also based on the built up hate and pain they were too weak or broken to overcome. There are obviously times where standing up and speaking out for yourself, others or for a cause is necessary, however in similar moments, there are also times where a response may not be warranted or deserved which itself exudes power.

Unfortunately, not everyone will be open minded enough, knowledgable enough or patient enough to seek common ground, so it will forever be your responsibility to decide whether the conversation is worth having, for your own personal benefit and the protection of your mental alignment. Dealing with people that have no interest in anything but aggressively sharing their perception, and be unaccepting of hearing out a different perspective is emotionally and in some cases physically draining which is why its important to know when to walk away or when No Response Becomes the Best Response.