As crazy as it seems, this year has been filled with blessings that I’m now starting to realize. As much as its tough to admit that I’m missing out on things I expected to finally be able to do now having the time and resources and other necessary items in place, I also came to terms that some of what I complained about in the past, mostly not having enough time to enjoy, or having things get pushed back because of other demands in life, I’ve finally gotten the opportunity to pursue and execute.
“Trust the process. We always end up right where we’re meant to be, when we’re meant to be there.”
Its completely natural that we seek more out of our lives, of ourselves, and often expect for that more to come all at once, along with the relative emotions and feelings of our desires finally arriving. I remember back in college having this tunnel vision mentality, expecting to get through it fast so that I could finally begin to live the life I envisioned, not considering all the roadblocks and difficulties I’d experience along the way and even more so, not appreciating them at the time and realizing the message that came along with it.
Even after finally reaching the point of adulthood I craved, some instances I could be so focused on making it to a certain milestone I was still blind to the person I was becoming; finally being able to afford things for myself, not having to lean on anyone for help when I found myself in need, and taking my own ability to make decisions, them work out or finding a way to pivot if not for granted was all in and of itself progress that needed to be rightfully celebrated.
In hindsight, I was worried about much more than I needed to and may have missed out on basking in the magic those moments of accomplishment brought to me or the lessons I was fortunate enough to encounter. I’ve said all of this to say, we can force things to happen at our desired pace as much as we want, but theres a process. Yes the work has to be done, but not always in the way you’ve expected. Most often the process requires more trust and less force than we want to admit but, the journey is nevertheless the most important piece.
3 Ways to Realign & Get Back to Trusting the Process
Slow Down
Whats the rush? What if we stopped having to remind ourselves of how fast time seems to be going or how we don’t have enough of it, instead slowing our pace on reaching goals where there is only a matter of time until the next one is on the pursuit to reflect more on the journey taken to reach where we’ve made it to currently. Don’t let the world influence you into thinking you’re further behind than you should be or that your time is running out. Enjoy the moments while you can especially before more of life begins to happen and you feel even more pressured.
Be Present
There will always be something left to work on. Having goals are great, but your pursuit of them should not be an obsession to the point there is no time for reflection and admiration for the accomplishments and moments as they are achieved. I sometimes envy people’s ability to recall events and feelings they’ve clearly have an appreciation for all because they chose to enjoy the moment as it took place instead of making the choice to prepare for what on the list was next.
Reflect Often
I definitely admit that I don’t do this enough, but am changing that each and everyday. Reflecting is most important. Its a way to remind yourself of how despite what was difficult at the time, you found a way to persist and now can appreciate all that you have because of it and that memory. Reflection is also a great way to exercise your self improvement. Its taught me that I don’t do enough of it, and that when I do, I can become better not only for myself but also for the people who matter most to me.